Monday, December 13, 2010

Breaking it down...

Okay, wait, I do want to say something to Katya:

"Sadly there is nothing we can do with these people in my country. (Russia). I mean….sad to say they cannot take care of themselves or contribute to society. So…it is all we can do. Maybe the conditions should be better, but many of them are violent and mentally unstable. So we have no other choice. Sorry It is sad…but one day I hope they will all find peace with God.” ~Katya

It is not only sad, it's untrue.

There are things you "can do with these people". There are numerous resources, including ME!

Who are "these people"? People with disabilities is what I am assuming, not just people with Ds.

As my brother Jason (a sheriff's deputy) said, "We do not even treat criminals this poorly".

They (uh, I hate putting Calvin in a category, but he is to a point) can take care of themselves (ever read Expecting Adam?). Example from Calvin? He cries when he needs something. That is self-advocacy in a pretty simple form, yet has BIG implications.

They can contribute to society. To say the least many hold jobs in our country. I read this when I was pregnant. Read the section on "If people with Ds ruled the world". There are also such things as indirect contributions, such as the love and affection and qualities that will become of Evan and Nolan because of their brother's disability.

Maybe conditions should be better? There is no maybe about it.

Consider the reasons a child is violent or mentally unstable, it could, it does, have to do with their "conditions". Ever heard of Reactive Attachment Disorder?

We ALL have other choices. That is a way of taking NO responsibility. When you're a parent, it's time to take on responsibility. Even if you're not a parent, you are responsible for things. Some people do take zero-very little responsibility, and I know how much I like to be in their company.

Don't be sorry, do something about it. Sorry indicates a person will change their ways. It shows remorse, which calls for a natural progression to change, it's classical conditioning at its finest. Most people do not like feeling remorse. So, we avoid it by making healthier choices. Those who do not feel remorse are the ones I worry about, not people with disabilities such as Ds.

In conclusion, if newborns are raised in a healthy environment with caretakers attempting to provide for all their needs, they will have a higher chance of turning out to be mentally stable contributing members of society. Of course there are many factors involved, but isn't it clear that treating people poorly does not lead to a positive outcome?

I hope Katya finds peace with God someday, her and the rest of us for our imperfect ways.


  1. Amen Ilisa! I wish everyone felt the way you do, our world would be a much better place. Love ya!

  2. Hey..I'm Melissa...i just found your blog today and love it! We have so much in common and so do our little ones. I would love to talk to you more about feeding issues if you have time...we are having lots of problems in this area!! Also, i love this post...I was so angry about this issue I could have puked.

  3. Great post! I read that comment on Patti's blog and my heart just sank.