Calvin is 11 months old (last week). I cannot believe we will be celebrating his birthday soon. I already feel like we've really accomplished a lot in the past year.
Parents often reflect with this question: "What did I do before having children?" I ask: "What did I think about before I had Calvin?"
I love him and we have been making huge gains.
I will save the feeding portion for another post which will be titled "Dear Dairy and Gluten, I miss you".
I do not know how much Cal weighs or how tall he is. I will get on that too unless an appointment gets here before I remember. This coming month Calvin sees his pediatrician, Dr. Sutton (his cardiologist whom I do miss), Miss Olson at the Down syndrome clinic, an audiologist, and the ophthalmologist. I told Joe when all the appointments are and he asked "why all the ologists?" to which I replied "because he has Down syndromology" Okay, poor humor, but I really do feel okay about all of this. I have come a long way in how I feel about Calvin having Down syndrome.
Did you know that people with Down syndrome are not Down's people? They are people first, Down syndrome later. They have it. It is like saying I have acne, I'm not an acne person. Or, Joe had/has Lyme disease, he is not a Lyme's person. This is called people first language. We address the person, then their characteristics (if that is necessary).
Also, it is not Down's or Lyme's. It is Down syndrome (not plural or owned by Down and a lowercase 's' in syndrome) and Lyme disease (same, not plural or owned by Lyme and a lowercase 'd' in disease).
I have learned a lot since having Calvin. I have learned how it feels to hear people say "retarded". I do not say ideas, things, or people are retarded, stupid, dumb, gay, etc. I also do not say "wife-beater" when referring to an A-shirt/tank top.
I was never one to get stuck on political correct(ion). However, the tables have turned and I now know what it feels like. More importantly, I am a momma bear to a little cub who will be the punching bag for some people.
People are special and we need to respect that because we should respect what is special about ourselves and all of God's children. It is not our place to judge, as I mentioned in the post Comfort or Conflict, part 2. I am not perfect, I make many mistakes. However, I continually strive to be a better person so therefore I am. This is why Calvin is a blessing. I get it now.
11 months...I like to imagine what I will learn in the next 11 years!